.Tuesday, July 24, 2007 ' 9:51 PM Y
learning a few impt lessons of life recently:
1. comparisons only make yourself more miserable.
i always compare my present life to the past, a happier sec school life where schoolwork is manageable without much effort. where friends can play our hearts away, laugh a genuine and happy laugh everyday, where time flies so fast that shows how all happy things must come to an end. j1 life wasn't too bad, j2 it is so horrible i feel like ponning school everyday. but does thinking abotu such stuff makes your life happier? no it doesn't. in fact it made me dwell in the past and REFUSES to move on. REFUSES to appreciate the goodness of the present life. it is good, in the sense that i have matured and im no longer living in a fantasy world.
neither is comparison with other people good. be it results, figure, looks, popularity, there is no final winner. because you win some you lose some. i can choose to mug my life away and get straight As for my As but will i be able to find back the friendships, the love that i gave up again? so i'll just do the best i can because at the end of the day, what i lost is something i dun regret giving up on.
2. everyone has their own troubles.
take my clique for example, it seems like im the one without troubles, the most xin fu because i've my parents, mx and my friends to fall back on. but no its not true, because i experience my own troubles from sources that they dun get from. for e.g, my relationship. sweet times yes, but there are bitter times as well. it is a give and take sort of thing. the realtionship gave me someone to be there for me, but at the same time, i have the added sad times of quarells, mood swings and such.
perhaps many say im skinny so its easy to buy clothes and stuff. but everytime i go out with others for dinners, esp those old people, they love to force me with food and food and food. its like i totally cannot eat alr but they still insist that im skinny so i MUST eat more. as if its an obligation. then i have to eat it because i cant ding zui with them ):
there are many down periods in my life too. there are periods where i cry myself to sleep every night. no one noes unless you are from that person's perspective.
3. different people have different mentalities.
guys vs girls. sometimes to us girls, guys simply dunnoe their limits. they dunnoe when to stop playing and be serious, when teasing makes a girl feels like she's being picked on, never noe how embarassing it is to say something funny to the guys but to girls, hurtful. because they are not girls and they have no idea wad are the impt things to a girl, and how girls behave.
if this is so, why is it a unspoken rule that girls must go with guys?
likewise, girls dunnoe how guys feel about a certain subject. becaus we dun feel for the subject that they feel so strongly for.
